I’ve hit rock bottom. What will people say?

Have you ever been asked this question: What will people say? What was your answer?

Or perhaps it is you that has asked this question.

I know I have! When I hit rock bottom after my divorce, I remember asking this question many times. I would answer on behalf of ‘people’ and then spend more time worrying about what I thought ‘people’ would say. It was a self defeating and worthless exercise which distracted me from moving forward.

What’s the point?

• Why do we ask this question?

• Who are ‘people’?

• Why would their opinion of our business (whose full details and truth only we know) matter to us so much?

Think about it for a moment. We ask this question about individuals we don’t know, whose answers may or may not help us to move forward. Ultimately we need feedback that will be of value to us, help us build on where we are, and figure out our next move.

Stay focused on empowering yourself

If you are down, at rock bottom, or in the valley, your focus needs to be on you, not ‘people’. If you do not invest in getting into a healthy frame of mind that will help you to make forward looking decisions, nobody will. Especially not ‘people’!

It’s time to seek targeted feedback from the right people, who can challenge and support you to keep putting one foot in front of the other until you get the traction you need to climb out of that pit.

Remember that ‘people’ will always have something to say about you, no matter your circumstance.

What can we do instead?

• Be mindful whose company you keep - being around the people who contributed and supported your downfall will not be of help to you.

• Rather than not caring what anybody says, be selective. Sift the information and feedback you receive and only consider the wisdom that you can learn from, and throw away the rest.

• Watch what you consume through social media, the kind of music you’re listening to, and what you watch online. Focus on content that is uplifting and what I refer to as badass - stuff that drives you to take positive action!

  
  

The next time you catch yourself or a loved one asking that awful question, make it a point to ask yourself a different question: what would my future me say?

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